Category: Child Custody

When You Cannot Agree on Child Custody and Parenting Time. . .

on Dec 5, 2017 in Child Custody

These days, many, if not most couples, are able to come to some agreement on child custody and parenting time arrangements.  Even couples who do not begin divorce proceedings on the same page often manage to come to agreement after working with their lawyers.  Sometimes, these agreements are also helped along by collaborative divorce proceedings or mediation.  However, there are times when parents just cannot agree about child custody and parenting time issues.  When all attempts to come to agreement about child custody fail, a judge decides child custody and parenting time. While a judge considers these important matters, who gets the children, for how long, and under what conditions, there are certain behaviors that should be avoided at...

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Maintaining Ties Between Children and Extended Family after Divorce

on Nov 14, 2017 in Child Custody, Divorce

In the early days, ongoing relationships between your children and extended family after divorce is rarely high on the priority list.  However, with the holidays coming, considering extended family and ongoing relations is at hand. Reassuring the Children When couples divorce, reassuring the children about ongoing relationships with those they love is paramount.  As a starting point, discussing the division of parenting time provides the children with assurances they will continue enjoying the love and presence of both parents.  It may take several weeks of sharing parenting time for the children to adjust to the new schedule.  Once the new schedule becomes routine, it is time to move on to navigating relationships with extended family after divorce. Continuing relationships...

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Stressed about Going to Court? 5 Strategies to Reduce Stress Ahead of Time

on Nov 13, 2017 in Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce

Most lay people find going to court a stressful situation.  Because it is often unfamiliar, court seems scary – and it can be.  If you have hidden assets, mislead your attorney, or provided false information during previous proceedings, you should immediately tell your family law attorney.  We cannot stress this enough.  These things have a way of coming out in court.  Optimally, none of these situations describe you.  However, if they do, or if you have a sneaking suspicion something else you have – or haven’t done – could result in disaster on the stand, the time to come clean is now.  Your attorney is your advocate.  Many times, your attorney has the ability to rectify the situation.  But...

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Divorce and Thanksgiving

on Nov 4, 2017 in Child Custody, Divorce

November is here and Thanksgiving is just around the corner.  Whether this is your first Thanksgiving after the divorce, or you’re an old hat, it is not too soon to start planning. Check the Divorce Decree If you have children, your divorce decree most likely addresses who gets the children on which Thanksgiving.  On the off chance somehow this was overlooked, take some time to consider how you will handle Thanksgiving.  If the children are older, consider including them in the discussion about where they want to spend their Thanksgiving. Spending Thanksgiving Together? Particularly for those with children, who had an amicable divorce, a joint Thanksgiving may make sense.  While not traditionally done, only you know what is best...

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How to Find a Family Law Attorney

on Oct 29, 2017 in Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce

Steps to Find a Family Law Attorney Looking to find a family law attorney?  Facing divorce, the stress of trying to find a family law attorney can be a challenge during an already difficult time.  Nonetheless, you work with your family law attorney making life-altering decisions.  Finding the right fit is critical.  You face a number of decisions regarding shared property, perhaps children, the potential for alimony, etc.  You need an attorney you can trust.  Regardless of who you hire, your attorney provides insights and advice based on their prior experience handling divorces.  Following a few simple guidelines make the process easier. Start By Asking for Referrals If you have a friend or family member who has divorced, ask...

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Tips for Successful Co-Parenting

on Oct 25, 2017 in Child Custody

Planning for Successful Co-Parenting Sometimes, both parties to the divorce are excited about the prospect of a new life.  Other times, only one party actively wants the divorce.  In either event, if the couple has children, it is a safe bet the children are not thrilled at the prospect of such significant life changes as those that come with a divorce.  Often, defining custody and determining parenting time presents the largest challenges in a divorce settlement.  Wanting as much time as possible with the children is only natural.  However, recognizing your child has another parent who they want to spend time with as well is important.  When determining co-parenting arrangements, bear in mind the best interests of your child....

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