Category: Divorce

Maintaining Ties Between Children and Extended Family after Divorce

on Nov 14, 2017 in Child Custody, Divorce

In the early days, ongoing relationships between your children and extended family after divorce is rarely high on the priority list.  However, with the holidays coming, considering extended family and ongoing relations is at hand. Reassuring the Children When couples divorce, reassuring the children about ongoing relationships with those they love is paramount.  As a starting point, discussing the division of parenting time provides the children with assurances they will continue enjoying the love and presence of both parents.  It may take several weeks of sharing parenting time for the children to adjust to the new schedule.  Once the new schedule becomes routine, it is time to move on to navigating relationships with extended family after divorce. Continuing relationships...

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Stressed about Going to Court? 5 Strategies to Reduce Stress Ahead of Time

on Nov 13, 2017 in Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce

Most lay people find going to court a stressful situation.  Because it is often unfamiliar, court seems scary – and it can be.  If you have hidden assets, mislead your attorney, or provided false information during previous proceedings, you should immediately tell your family law attorney.  We cannot stress this enough.  These things have a way of coming out in court.  Optimally, none of these situations describe you.  However, if they do, or if you have a sneaking suspicion something else you have – or haven’t done – could result in disaster on the stand, the time to come clean is now.  Your attorney is your advocate.  Many times, your attorney has the ability to rectify the situation.  But...

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Frequently Asked Divorce Questions

on Nov 9, 2017 in Divorce

Every family law case is different in some aspect or another.  However, family law cases often also have a lot in common.  At Fait & DiLima, with over 50 years of combined experience handling family law cases, we have encountered some divorce questions more often than others.  Below, we provide some of the most common divorce questions, and answers to those questions. Frequently Asked Divorce Questions My spouse and I agree on everything.  Why would we need an attorney to help with our uncontested divorce? You are certainly entitled to represent yourself in your divorce.  However, even in uncontested divorces, parties often find benefits to having an experienced family law attorney on their side.  Divorce attorneys have the benefit...

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Divorce and Thanksgiving

on Nov 4, 2017 in Child Custody, Divorce

November is here and Thanksgiving is just around the corner.  Whether this is your first Thanksgiving after the divorce, or you’re an old hat, it is not too soon to start planning. Check the Divorce Decree If you have children, your divorce decree most likely addresses who gets the children on which Thanksgiving.  On the off chance somehow this was overlooked, take some time to consider how you will handle Thanksgiving.  If the children are older, consider including them in the discussion about where they want to spend their Thanksgiving. Spending Thanksgiving Together? Particularly for those with children, who had an amicable divorce, a joint Thanksgiving may make sense.  While not traditionally done, only you know what is best...

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8 Mistakes People Make in High Net Worth Divorce

on Nov 1, 2017 in Divorce

Whether you have a high net worth divorce, or a divorce of modest means, there are some universal truths.  Divorcing parties are often hurt, stressed, angry, and feel overwhelmed.  In any divorce, there are seemingly endless decisions to be made.  Who gets the china?  How with the kids be affected?  Will the parties be able to afford maintaining two different households?  Because divorce can feel so overwhelming, having an experienced family law attorney on your side is essential.  Your attorney assists you in making decisions with an objective eye and a cooler head.  In any divorce, making decisions out of anger or frustration can result in costly, long term mistakes.  In a high asset divorce, the costs can be...

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How to Find a Family Law Attorney

on Oct 29, 2017 in Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce

Steps to Find a Family Law Attorney Looking to find a family law attorney?  Facing divorce, the stress of trying to find a family law attorney can be a challenge during an already difficult time.  Nonetheless, you work with your family law attorney making life-altering decisions.  Finding the right fit is critical.  You face a number of decisions regarding shared property, perhaps children, the potential for alimony, etc.  You need an attorney you can trust.  Regardless of who you hire, your attorney provides insights and advice based on their prior experience handling divorces.  Following a few simple guidelines make the process easier. Start By Asking for Referrals If you have a friend or family member who has divorced, ask...

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