If you and your ex-spouse have children, co-parenting may be somewhat of a challenge for you in the aftermath of your divorce. Just because all the papers are signed and the process is finalized does not mean all of the hurt feelings and resentment disappear. You and your former spouse will have to work together to rebuild the trust you may have lost, so you can effectively co-parent your children. Continue reading for some helpful tips.
Trusting Each Other
Getting over a divorce can be difficult, even if it was not a particularly hostile situation. However, you and your former spouse will continue to be in each other’s lives as parents to your children, so repairing trust is essential.
Here are some tips to set you on the right path:
- Demonstrate consistent behavior: Actions, especially consistent ones, always speak louder than words. If your co-parent knows what to expect from you, it will help reduce anxiety and conflict, which will benefit everyone involved. On the other hand, if you are all over the map, your co-parent will continue to harbor some distrust toward you.
- Behave considerately: Co-parenting after a divorce is going to be tricky for everyone, so try to be considerate of your ex’s feelings. Sometimes, this may require a bit of flexibility when it comes to scheduling. Keep in mind that, ultimately, this is all for the benefit of your children.
- Learn how to be a good listener: Sure, you can both hear each other, but that does not necessarily mean you are listening. Moreover, listening does not mean you are in agreement. The key point here is that you should both learn how to listen and understand each other, so you can communicate more successfully.
- Be supportive: Parents should support one another’s relationships with the children. Just because you are no longer married does not mean you do not deserve each other’s support when it comes to nurturing healthy bonds with your children. Ask for your ex’s opinion on certain child-related matters and affirm the children’s relationship with your ex.
You and your ex may never become the best of friends, but that does not mean you cannot repair trust and learn to work together as co-parents.
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