Raising a child is hard work; doing it with your former spouse is a challenge on another level. You donโt have to be best friends with your ex after a divorce, but it is crucial to become a collaborative team for the sake of your child. Oftentimes, thatโs easier said than done. To help you navigate co-parenting, weโre sharing our top tips to making it easier for you:
1. Collaborate and work as a team
Co-parenting wonโt be smooth sailing. Disagreements will arise, and when they do, itโs best to remember that youโre working as a team. Remember that the foundation of your relationship is the best interest of your child, something that should be kept at the forefront for both of you.
2. Donโt put your child in the middle of your conflict
Going along with the first tip, when there is contention, itโs best not to involve your child. Avoid bad-mouthing your ex in front of your kids or fighting in front of them. This can skew your childโs views of both of you and cause deeper-rooted issues. Studies have shown that frequent parental conflict can have long-lasting adverse effects on children. This may be difficult to remember in the heat of the moment, but try to make an effort to reserve those conversations to adult confidants.
3. Learn to communicate effectively
There can be a lot of leftover emotions following a divorce and separation, making it hard to communicate effectively. Try treating your relationship with your co-parent like you would with a colleague. This entails being respectful, speaking professionally, and upholding appointments.
4. Remember that fair doesnโt always mean equal
Not all custody arrangements will mean 50/50 sharing time. Extracurricular activities, appointments, or holidays could mean having to give up some of โyourโ time. Before getting frustrated about this, listen to your childโs input and consider what they want before making a decision. Co-parenting is also about being flexible.
5. Find a support group
Tensions can run high when youโre co-parenting, and itโs important that you talk to someone during those difficult times. Try reaching out to a religious leader, opening up to a trusted friend, joining an online support community, or downloading a co-parenting app. Releasing this tension can allow you to focus on raising your child.
Contact Fait & DiLima, LLP at (301) 251-0100 to schedule a consultation with our family and child custody attorneys today.