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I know, sounds crazy, right? Why would you ever reference your divorce when applying for a job? And to be clear, I am not advocating that we should do this, I am just taking an internet joke and putting some thought to it. If you need help with a divorce or other family law issue, our Frederick, MD divorce lawyer is available to help.
Most divorces take up a great deal of time. It becomes a full-time/part-time job. Gathering all the documents, attending court hearings, meetings with your attorney, zoom calls, mediations and then a trial or trials. It is a lot. And it requires the development of skills. Skills like:
- Managing extreme emotional distress
- Negotiation and distribution of property
- Scheduling and coordination of multiple schedules and logistics
- Developed breathing techniques to prevent burn out and breakdown
- Learned the value of a dollar halved
Lessons Learned
There are so many lessons in divorce, taught by someone you never thought would be the one to teach you and so many lessons you never wanted to learn…but there they are nonetheless.
In my experience, I think the people who do the best, are the ones who commit to being flexible in position and thought, the ones who do their best to see the humor, because it is there buried under all that pain and heartbreak and the ones who take the skills that are developed, honed and revisited during the divorce and using them as catalysts for change.
The Divorce Ends, Skills Remain
The divorce will eventually have an ending, after a lot of middle time, but it will finally, blessedly end. And you will be the recipient of a whole host of new skills and perhaps old ones revamped and fortified when all is said and done…
I am sure that we don’t want to start placing these hard won and long fought skills onto our work resume, but perhaps we might start developing a social resume, of sorts. I think it would be helpful for my coaching clients, as well as my legal clients, to do a resume like entry to help them see all the things they survived, thrived and persevered. It would be helpful to see that in addition to the spiraling legal bills, the constant state of angst and worry, that they actually developed some real world skills that they can apply in all areas of their lives going forward.
Skills Developed Through Divorce
Whether you are having the best divorce ever, or a hellish nightmare, you will develop the following skills regardless of your consent, wishes or position not to acquire these skills. You will be presented with countless opportunities to develop them…
- Understanding for yourself and others
- Empathy
- The ability to do hard things that you do not want to do
- Acceptance
- Not getting your way
- Unfairness
- Justice being delayed or wholly absent
- The ability to live better with less
- The logistical abilities of FedEx
- The bullet dodging skills of John Wick
- The patience of the Dalai Lama
- When to take a break and when to continue forward
- To know when to fold them, know when to hold them
- Know when to walk away, know when to run…
These are just some of the skills you will have the opportunity to fine tune, learn, hone and perfect during your divorce whether you want to or not…
The Importance Of A Guide
To augment this trek you have embarked upon, I cannot stress how important it is that you have a guide, a leader, someone who knows the ropes before you begin, to help you take your hits strategically, and can usher you through the hard, uphill climb required to end your marriage. You need a divorce sherpa…yeah, I just made that up.
But if you want help, we would be honored to help you, “sherpa” you…we have helped thousands of people summit to a new life and we will help you too. Contact Fait & DiLima, LLP today.
